Dear Carter, When I was a teenager, my favorite band was the Beatles. My best best friend Stephanie and I would listen to their records nonstop until we had all their songs memorized. I had posters on my ceiling that we would just gaze at while lying in my four-post bed. I don’t listen to… Continue reading My angel sent a rainbow
Two years of lessons: a poem
I may never know why you had to leave, but I know why you came: to teach me the depth of LOVE that a heart can feel, to help me find the STRENGTH of spirit I didn’t know I had, to show me just how bright JOY makes all the colors, to nurture EMPATHY for… Continue reading Two years of lessons: a poem
Confirmation
*Disclaimer: This post discusses mediumship and spirituality outside of traditional Christianity. If you are offended, please stop reading now.* Dear Carter, Hey baby boy! It’s been a long time since I wrote to you. I started a few times, but for some reason the letters never quite took off. But I’ve recently had a few… Continue reading Confirmation
Parenting in the aftermath
Dear Carter, Yesterday I found out the paradox of parenting after your baby dies. Your dad was working on teaching your brother how to ride a bike and your sister went outside to hang out, but they were nowhere in sight. She came back inside and asked me “Where’d they go?”, and I could tell… Continue reading Parenting in the aftermath
What I did for love
Dear Carter, A year ago today, Daddy and I made the excruciatingly and agonizingly painful decision to turn off the machines that were keeping you alive. I’ve wondered so many times over the last year if it was the right thing to do. If it was the best decision we could have made. If we… Continue reading What I did for love
525,600 Minutes
Dear Carter, A year has passed since The Day. The day a phone call shattered my innocence and ripped out my heart. Somehow the world has kept turning. Somehow the sun still rises and sets. Somehow I’m still breathing even though you’re not. I’ve fallen apart about a hundred times today as the flashbacks crashed… Continue reading 525,600 Minutes
Mothering from the gray
Dear Carter, It’s Mother’s Day and I find myself in a weird gray area, a little stuck and lot confused. I guess it’s because I don’t really feel like a mother. I know that I am, but knowing and feeling are two entirely separate things. I got some Mother’s Day texts, cards, and wishes and didn’t know how… Continue reading Mothering from the gray
In celebration of women
Dear Carter, March 8th was International Women’s Day, and March is Women’s History Month. Obviously, you’re my sweet boy, my son who didn’t get the chance to become the wonderful man I know you’d be. Still, men can (and should) play a vital role in bringing about changes to the common worldview that women are… Continue reading In celebration of women
Convictions
Dear Carter, A few nights ago, Daddy and I had a conversation about beliefs. We talked about what we were raised by your grandparents to believe as children, and how some of those ideas have changed as we have gotten older and had life experiences of our own. We talked about how some of those… Continue reading Convictions
Happy 1st Birthday
Dear Carter, Today isn’t really your birthday. It was this past Sunday, February 4th. I wanted to write to you on your actual birthday, but in all honesty, it was all I could do to get out of bed that day. It was one of the hardest days since the day you left. It was… Continue reading Happy 1st Birthday
